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When He Gets Out - Countdown Day 59 there was some success

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Finally - some success. After what feels like a never ending nightmare, I finally got word that my abuser will not be released on extended supervision to live 6 blocks from where I live. Receiving that information was like having a dark cloud lifted . I knew I had been stressed out, but to what degree, that realization didn't happen until the news came. My shoulders finally relaxed. The fiery pain in my joints slowly ceased to be, the inflammation went down and I felt like I could sleep solid for a month. The worry I had been carrying in me for over a year, disappeared. Last night was the first time in a very long time that I didn't have a nightmare. It is hard to convey just exactly how I feel because even though for my personal situation I now get to experience the triumph of success, there is still a part of me that is irritated that because of lack of laws giving victims a voice during offender re-entry, I had to experience the mental torment of fear, triggeri

When he gets out - 61 days and counting

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Yes, sixty-one days and counting. I try not to think about it, but I find that it is all I can think about.  Why? Well, one of the main reasons is the unknown I am currently facing - when he gets out on extended supervision will he be placed at the temporary living placement 6 blocks from my house, or not. I am still waiting to hear from probation on that drama. See When He Gets Out - The Timeline for the background. For those of you new to my blog and story the short summary is.. He is my ex husband and abuser who is serving 8 yrs of initial confinement in the Wisconsin Prison System for sexual assault and battery against me, the woman who spent nearly 20 years with him and gave birth to our two sons.  A crime he did in front of our two boys. When he gets out he will have 6 yrs of extended supervision yet to serve, and I am still waiting to hear where he will begin that journey...6 blocks from where I lay my head down to sleep each night (like sleep will happen) or somewhere e