"Well, you should just get a restraining order against him, and that will end it!" Don't let comments such as that give you a false sense of security!! Restraining orders, while they do serve a good purpose if properly issued, and utilized, they will not save you from an offender who is out of control. Please remember that and make sure you take other steps to keep yourself safe. In my case, orders of protection and "no contact" meant nothing to my abuser. If anything they served to give him something to aim his anger at and a reason to take it out on me - I had to make sure I had other things lined up for my own security...and since I didn't have a lot to work with, that meant I made sure to remember the little things....like... STAY OUT OF THE KITCHEN WHEN AROUND THE OFFENDER!!! (it's an arsenal in there!) Know the exits around you Keep "supplies" handy if needed to grab and run (money, id, important papers) Keep porch lights on at night K