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Potential - What every victim of DV has

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Potential  - is a word that is often thrown about without ever realizing and dissecting what it truly means. For victims living in domestic violence that word and it's meaning is not discussed, and rarely, if ever, is it truly understood. I dedicate this post to anyone living in such a situation because I am going to lay out just exactly the potential each and every one of you have - it's there, trust me, despite what others and yourself may think You have strength beyond compare - You're not weak,  lazy, needy nor inadequate. How can I say this without knowing you personally? Because I know if you're living with abuse in your life that you are living in a war zone. I know you wake up hoping that the day will be better than the last one - I know that you juggle so very much in an attempt to keep the bombs from exploding - your shoulders may feel slumped down, but they are strong despite how battle worn your soul may feel ...you keep your family together the bes

Your Story - take it back!

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I was fixing lunch today for my boys and I started thinking about the little things in my childhood that happened and set me up to becoming a victim more times in life than I would like to share. Perhaps prompting those thoughts was a phone call I received yesterday evening from a male family member. Who is not important - what the communication was about, is. He was attempting to insert himself into my life and in a roundabout ---controlling way...dictate to me my path as a survivor of domestic abuse and how I should "feel" in regard to my abuser. Evidently what prompted that call was a letter he received from my now ex husband complaining about the lack of access he has to his children from time being spent in prison for a crime committed against me and them. As I explained to this family member I've never kept the boys from their father - not once. If they choose to communicate, then they may do so - it must be their decision I will not force the issue one w